Born into a wolfpack of so many siblings, the four of us plus our two lovely brothers Chris and Nick, lets just say growing up in each others personal space wasn't always easy. The six of us having very different personalities naturally disagreed, took things to heart and fought like cats and dogs at times. Our parents didn't allow room for selfishness or bad behaviour. They taught us that being brutally honest with each other was the only way we could learn, understanding that we all have different views on life, and learning that that's ok. They instilled that communication is key, talking is therapy, so speaking your mind can only benefit you and others. They taught us to not judge and most importantly to love each other no matter what. These basic life lessons meant we understood each other and we grew closer and closer with age.
Lets face it as humans we never know what's around the corner and it is easy to forget these lessons. So thanks to Don Miguel Ruiz for putting his wisdom down in a book (one of our favs!) and taking it back to basics. The Four agreements will put you back on track to a road of personal freedom and a clear mind. Practising these means you're on a the path to living your life with unconditional love, gratitude, and respect, for yourself, and for others. They really are life changing. Thanks Don!
1 Be Impeccable with your word
Speak with Integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth & love.
2 Don’t take anything personally
Nothing others do is because of you/ What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dreams. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3 Don’t make assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstanding, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4 Always do your best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.